But what had he, Rieux, won? No more than the experience of having known plague and remembering it, of having known friendship and remembering it, of knowing affection and being destined one day to remember it. So all a man could win in the conflict between plague and life was knowledge and memories.
Albert Camus, “The Plague”
Fourteen months of traveling have taught me much and more about myself, people, cultures, traveling, love, and life.
On 16 April 2020, I started reading The Plague by Camus. To my surprise, it opened on the same day and month, seven decades before that. A total coincidence.
It happened during the first COVID-19 lockdown, and I felt as though I’d entered the novel’s opening pages in a narratological metalepsis. Now I feel the same about its ending.
Table of Contents
Lessons about Myself
As a university student, I’d learned about the world. Traveling in a new part of it, I learned about myself.
1. I can be entirely self-reliant in all my needs.
2. Money is the only thing standing in the way of my survival.
3. Indifference, in addition to money, are the only things standing in the way of my happiness.
4. Life will never go according to plan, because my dreams depend on other people for their fulfilment.
5. I came into this world in order to see it.
6. Yet my mission in life is to change it.
7. I can be a total extrovert who thrives off social interactions.
8. I am no longer scared of caves, worried about lack of planning, and deterred by nightclubs. Dancing can be fun, spontaneity can be rewarding, and being naked around strangers is no biggie.
9. I actually enjoy hiking.
10. If the vibe is good, I can befriend someone in an instant.
11. If the vibe is unparalleled, I can fall in love with someone upon the first encounter.
12. I am capable of developing feelings towards someone.
13. But I shouldn’t cry in front of someone I like.
14. I make a lot of mistakes.
15. I know nothing about the world. I will never cease to learn. Ergo, I will never cease to change.
16. I am actually capable of missing people. I was just used to being surrounded by people I didn’t miss.
17. I feel more at home in places that aren’t my home.
18. I will live forever as an outsider, because I feel this way in my country of origin, and wish to spend the rest of my days elsewhere.
19. I will never, ever understand the way other people think and feel. No matter how much I speculate and try to foresee their behaviour.
20. I love being alone in the world and traveling on my own. But if I don’t befriend people along the way and tell them my stories, none of it will matter. Happiness is real only when shared.
21. I can fall asleep in a few, short minutes. Before this trip, I simply never tired myself enough.
22. Yet I will never be able to sleep properly while sitting down, even if I take melatonin.
23. Snowy mountains are my favourite view. A summit is my natural happy place.
24. I can sleep on the floor, eat and drink very little, forfeit privacy, and live without luxury, just to do the things I love.
25. I actually like writing non-fiction and poetry.
26. I don’t need a fixed dwelling. At this point in my life, I am happy to migrate on a regular basis, like a global nomad.
27. Most things I do go unnoticed.
28. Venturing into a deserted mountain alone at dusk and experiencing a spiritual high always result in a leg injury, in my case.
29. I grew up in an Israeli suburb and moved to a medieval town in England. I never saw myself in a city. Now, I want to live in the world’s biggest metropolis, within walking distance to the busiest train station on Earth, in Japan. The right place can change everything.
30. I am a passenger in people’s lives.
31. I am not a driver in my own life.
32. I am a thrill seeker.
33. I am a pain applicant.
34. I am a sociable romantic.
35. Heartbreak destroys me every time. It crushes my soul, develops my psyche, and nourishes my writing. Pain takes the dullness out of life.
36. I never lived till I published; nor until I loved.
Lessons about People
Meeting new people from all over the world every day on a dazzling rate, I also learned about their nature.
37. A person’s aura matters more than their appearance. It can take over my brain.
38. Opening up to people can be rewarding.
39. People, despite their differences, are deep down the same.
40. They care about themselves.
41. They make empty promises, send mixed signals, and do not communicate in a way that is both direct and considerate.
42. They promise to stay in touch, and then disappear.
43. If someone wants you in their life, they will make time for you.
44. The only person who doesn’t disappoint me is me.
45. There is no such thing as a ‘good boy’.
46. There are people in the world who are right for me, romantically and platonically. They come from a background different to mine. Yet we see the world in a similar fashion.
47. Helping someone doesn’t mean they will help you in return.
48. There are people who host and feed total strangers out of sheer generosity. They are selfless and kind. They also come and go.
49. One hand is enough to count the people I can trust.
Lessons about Culture
Next, I have made some cultural observations.
I can write a list of a thousand points about Japan, Korean, and Taiwan, such as long, thin, metallic chopsticks in Korea versus round, wooden chopsticks in Japan. It’s possible to tell Japanese, Korean, Taiwanese, and Chinese people apart not only based on their face, but also their fashion. The same goes to a street or a restaurant.
I will focus on the main points. Unavoidably, some will be generalizations that border on stereotypes. Norms exist, but also individuals that defy them.
50. Germans and French are the most well-travelled nationalities.
51. Israelis, Americans, and Chinese make the most annoying tourists.
52. Every country has exceptions to the general population, people who don’t fit in with the national traits. Including the above three.
53. Something so normal that it goes without saying to one culture is bizarre and unheard of in another.
54. Koreans are made of steel. They will do everything in their power to act tough and look pretty. But they are cold in their attitude toward outsiders and beauty.
55. Japanese are made of cloud. They are delicate and constantly urge you to be careful. They will float away at the first sign of conflict.
56. Taiwanese are made of fire. They are open-minded toward people and risks. Warm and welcoming on the one hand, reckless on the other.
57. The most important value in Japan is respect. Thus, shame is the biggest deterrent. Japanese people invented love hotels to cheat instead of getting divorced. They make themselves as small as possible.
58. The most important value in Korea in convenience. Everything has to be bali bali – fast and easy – even if it involves rudeness.
59. The most important value in Taiwan is hospitality. They enjoy treating others and leaving their door open. They will never wrinkle their nose at a foreigner.
60. Koreans would rather be miserable than ugly. Conformism to their norms is paramount.
61. Japanese people would rather lie than fight. Their communication is so indirect, that it must be read between the lines. Particularly if they are dissatisfied.
62. Taiwanese people would rather risk inconvenience than reject something good. Motorcycles are worth the cacophony, friends are worth translation apps, and purification is worth firecrackers. Some deem their devotion excessive.
63. If you’re not waiting in line, you’re not seeing Japan.
64. My biggest disappointment in Japan was the duplicity and fake politeness of people.
65. My biggest disappointment in Korea was the close-mindedness of people.
66. My biggest disappointment in Taiwan was the art museums.
67. Shinto shrines are simple and modest. Taoist temples are gaudy and stimulate all the senses.
68. Korea is unruly, elusive, and fervent. The cuisine is narrow and based on gochujang.
69. Japan is quiet, orderly, and courteous. The cuisine is narrow and based on soy sauce.
70. Taiwan is loud, messy, and cordial. The cuisine is wide and based on various flavours.
71. There is no salt and pepper on the table in the East. You’re not supposed to fix the seasoning of food, make changes to dishes, or leave leftovers. It hints that there is something wrong with the food.
72. It is mundanely normal for Asian friends and family to see each other naked at a hot spring.
Lessons about Traveling
Traveling for the first time for longer than a week to a city in Europe has raised some conclusions about voyaging.
73. It is better to drag a suitcase than carry giant bags when constantly on the move.
74. It is best to base yourself somewhere, slow travel, and go on day trips. Dragging your suitcase on a daily basis is a hassle.
75. Traveling confronts you with so many cultural and natural shocks, that it feels like you’re on a different planet.
76. Constantly exploring new places makes life feel fresh.
77. When traveling, the people you meet and food you eat matter no less than the places you visit.
78. When visiting a new place, always start with the tourist information centre.
79. Traveling allows you to learn and grow into someone else. No one knows who you used to be. Thus, it is the perfect opportunity to reinvent yourself.
80. Travel is a double-edged sword. It leads you to marvellous places and brings you together with life-changing people, only to force goodbyes, and pull the rug from under your feet. The sole downside to traveling is the lack of stability, especially socially.
81. Distance can ruin everything.
Lessons about Love
The last point about distance has brought me to my most important realizations, on the most indispensable part of humanity.
82. Love and pain are two sides of the same coin. To understand love, one must understand heartache.
83. It is possible to be in love with multiple people at the same time.
84. It is possible to stay in love with someone you know isn’t right.
85. It is possible to stay in love with someone from the other side of Earth, with whom you’ve lost touch.
86. Love is the bravery in exposing yourself to others and letting them do as they wished. Even if you trust them, entrusting a part of yourself in someone else’s hands makes it impossible to predict what they will do with it. This act may grant you joy. It also turns you susceptible to sorrow.
87. Love, like friendship, can come only when least expected.
88. Love forces you to make sacrifices.
89. Pain is the fate of love. If I don’t love, I won’t hurt. If I don’t hurt, I won’t love.
90. The difference between being in love and love is time. The former is as intense as it is instant. The latter is as abiding as it is blind.
91. Love is a tree that sprouts roots from the first moment. The roots grow so deep, that they stand the test of distance and time. Conflict won't cut them short. They hug you like a friend, calm you like a therapist, peel your layers like an onion. Time doesn't exist when basking in this tree: you have always known it; you will always miss it. Tending to the tree so that it bears fruit will engage your days and nights. Inability to taste those fruit will rot your trunk.
Lessons about Life
Finally, living life to the fullest has led to some life-changing verdicts.
92. You don’t live until you say yes to things you’ve never considered, scrap your plans, and venture blind into uncharted territory. The most memorable and teachable moments are those that weren’t supposed to happen.
93. It is not desire, but indifference that is the root cause of suffering.
94. Life comes down to the people you love. Everything else is background noise.
95. Always trust your instincts, even when they lead to failure.
96. Failure throbs with pain. Learning comes from anguish.
97. Vulnerability is better done in secret.
98. Big things are always realized in retrospect. Usually when it’s too late.
99. Regret is the worst thing a sentient being can do to themselves.
100. I hurt, therefore I live.